When do you decide enough is enough in an abusive relationship? And once you've decided you've reached that point, what do you do about it? I'm a lesbian, living with my partner who is verbally abusive. She gets that her behavior is a problem and is committed to change. We both think she's changing with the help of a new therapist. Her outbursts are less frequent and she's able to dial herself down more often when she's upset.
The problem is, she's not able to dial herself down all the time. Monday night she lost it on me--wanting me to change the chair I was sitting in and calling me disrespectful when I refused. Does it matter if she's changing if she's still having incidents of abuse? Can I trust my read of the situation--that it's getting better--or am I in denial? What are the risks I'm taking to stay--and the sacrifices I'm making every time she has another outburst?
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